If I had known how astoundingly easy it would be to control hubby and make him crave opportunities to make me happy, I would have taken control of his orgasms years ago. It is amazing. It only took five days after his last “self-determined” orgasm for him to become so pliant and malleable that he would agree to wash the dishes every time, forever. It is important to note that he HATES washing the dishes. Even more than he hates doing laundry, and almost as much as he hates cleaning the toilets.
Needless to say all of these are his exclusive chores now.
I realized a couple of things early on. One is that it is not a rational thing. He is not saying to himself “I do not want to carry Her purse but I will because maybe She will eventually let me cum”. Instead his brain chemistry is swirling with so much need to please, that it feels good to obey and the idea of not obeying does not even enter his mind.
The second thing I realized was that the orgasm control is self reinforcing. The obedient attitude that comes from not allowing him to cum even makes it hard for him to disobey the command not to cum. You might think that the longer I go without letting him cum the more the pressure builds up and the more rebellious he becomes, but it is not so. The longer we go the more the pressure builds up, but it is pressure directed toward devotion to me, so the longer he goes without cumming the more impossible it becomes for him to cum without my permission. Because it would displease me, and because in that state obeying me feels so natural to him.